A divorce can be substantially devastating on younger children. Kids need their parents at all times during their adolescence and childhood, mostly because they are looking for guidance and parental love. A child that is missing one or both the parents can grow up with severe problems because they are left to fend for themselves. A child that grows up without a mother can turn to being aggressive, angry, and dangerous, etc. These kids can never feel the mother’s love which makes them happy. At the same time, kids without fathers may not know what authority is; they can end up weak, devastated, helpless. Here are some effects of divorce on youngsters and kids. Have a look.
1. Teens Feel like It is Their Fault
Most of the time, teens, who experience a growing distance from their parents feel as if it is all their faults. This is because, parents, who are in a divorce or separation process don’t necessarily have time for their children. They simply want to get everything over with as soon as possible. Kids, or in this case, teens, feel as if their parents are ignoring them because they are the probable cause of separation. This is inherently not true. But, it’s a passive state of mind which occurs when something devastating like this happens.
2. Quality of Life Suffers
Enthusiasm breaks down. Happiness dissolves and a positive outlook on life is simply not there anymore. And, who can blame the people that experience a divorce? It’s not like they can be happy or feel good about anything while this process is ongoing. A few people that are close to me have gone through a divorce. And, I can tell you – it doesn’t feel right. Having to choose between your parents is not a good feeling at all. So, it’s obvious that quality of life will be a lot worse than before.
3. Teens are Forced to Grow Up Quickly
You see, teens are still in a phase, where they don’t have to do anything – they have their parents. Doing the dishes, washing the laundry, preparing breakfast, lunch, dinner – it’s all done by parents (most of the time). It’s understandable that once a teen goes through their parent’s divorce, they will have to grow up fast. This is because, at least half of the things will now be their obligation.
4. Behavioral Problems: One of the Effects of Divorce
It’s a common sight to see teens and adolescents become deviant and problematic. Drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes and causing problems – these are all symptoms of a child, who is in a very challenging and problematic situation at home. These kids start to do the exact opposite of what is socially acceptable and considered “normal”. However, it might be a good idea to take these kids to child support specialists, if matter worsens simply to try and bring them back to the correct path.
5. Depressive Symptoms May be Yet Another Impact of Divorce
How many times have you seen teens become depressed because they will have to live in a world without their parents? The older you are, the more of these teens you notice. We already talked about issues with drugs, smoking, and drinking – add depression into the mix and you’ve got a very, very volatile person. These teens are humans too. And, they don’t deserve to experience such pain and a disconnection from the world. Unfortunately, there isn’t a lot that anyone can do.
Thus, it’s the duty of the parents to do things peacefully to avoid any negative effects of divorce and parental separation on their kids. When you have noticed that things aren’t working with each other and you will have to separate, it’s better you do it peacefully. And, try not dragging your kids into it unnecessarily.